I hurt my ex, now how do I undo the damage? 5 steps to undo the pain and reverse a breakup!
Well, if you’ve caused your ex pain or made some pretty serious mistakes, you can undo them and reverse the breakup! Read on to discover the 5 steps to undo the pain and reverse a breakup…
Step #5: Keep things simple
o Don’t complicate things, and don’t make excuses. A lot of people tend to start complicating things by arguing over the facts or adding irrelevant things to the mix, and this only makes your ex think about it more!
o Say only what is necessary, and do not obscure anything or try to mask anything. Keep things simple, because the more you complicate things, the more irritated your ex will be and the more you will force him to think about the bad things.
Step #4: Keep things to the point
o Instead of beating around the bush or blaming your ex, admit EXACTLY where you went wrong. Always stay on point.
o If your ex is talking about the pain they are feeling, don’t immediately turn around the things you are feeling, but always stay on topic and keep things to the point.
o Your ex will find it irresponsible if you’re always beating around the bush, and they’ll feel like you’re not listening when you take things off the main point.
Step #3: Keep your word
o If you say you are going to change, keep your promise. You may not see it as a promise, but your WORD is seen as a promise to your ex after a breakup.
o The fastest way to break trust completely and lose your ex forever is to break your word, so always make sure you do what you say as this will help build trust again and will surely make your ex want to accept you . back.
Step #2: Keep living life
o Sometimes our expectations of others is what kills the relationship, and it can also be the same thing that made your ex want to break up with you.
o Maybe you were too needy, too clingy or too insecure…and now you desperately want your ex back. BUT, he/she will not accept it back under these circumstances!
o Instead, keep living life and address every insecurity you have so your ex can see that you are strong and so you can go back to being the person they originally fell in love with.
Step #1: Forgive yourself and apologize
o If you can’t forgive yourself, you can never move on, and neither can your ex, so learn to forgive yourself, because you are ABOVE the past.
o Apologize for the places you went wrong, and this will help ease the pain and make your ex understand that you are making a real effort to change.