Importance of citation congruence

Congruence is important in dating. Has he ever met someone who he thought was the most moral and ethical person in the world and he never missed an opportunity to remind her of that?

Kind of annoying, huh? Especially when you start to examine their behavior and discover that what they call “ethics and morals” conveniently explains their bad behavior. If you want to be a man who not only attracts women, but keeps them, your words and behavior have to match. Incongruity is always an attraction killer.

Incongruity occurs when there is a gap between words and behavior, and the wider

the bigger the gap, the bigger the inconsistency (politicians, especially those who advocate higher taxes while cheating the tax collector, are the perfect example of this).

What you want to do is make sure there is a minimal gap, a gap that you always strive to close. No one is going to be perfect 100% of the time, but those who strive to be are much more congruent than those who aren’t.

Women notice men who go out of their way to match their deeds and words. Most men don’t; in fact, they do the opposite, talk openly, talk about their own superiority, and make promises they can’t possibly keep.

What happens is that women quickly notice that words and behavior don’t match, and they become disillusioned once again. But when she meets a man whose words and behavior match, it’s a different story: he recognizes him as weird and is more likely to stick around.

Now, notice that I said that words and behavior must match, not that you have to promise to the moon and then deliver it. If most men would simply pare down their talk and proclamations, limiting it to what they can really offer and who they really are, warts and all, they would instantly become more attractive to women.

Sure, you should strive to become an honorable man and you should strive to achieve things, but let your actions speak for you. Women will notice without you saying anything, and in this case, silence speaks louder than words. Remember, women love integrity and consistency in men.

Let other lesser men chat away while you go about your business in silence, synchronizing your words and actions as you wonder why you attract so many women and they don’t. Let your consistency be your calling card in your love life.