Advice for the groom’s sister
When you’re the groom’s sister, it can be a very interesting time. For some sisters, it’s a fun period in their lives, but for others it can bring out some difficult feelings. Here are some tips on how to have the most fun being the groom’s sister and how to get your relationship with the bride off to a great start.
Weddings are times of great joy, but they can also be times of great stress. It is also a time when jealousy is likely to rear its ugly head. You wouldn’t be the first groom’s sister to be jealous because she’s getting married before you, or because your parents are giving him all of her attention and money. Envy is also common when the bride’s parents organize a more luxurious affair than the groom’s sister could afford. All of these feelings are completely normal, even if you are as happy as you can be for your brother and love his fiancé to death. The key is to acknowledge them to yourself and then let them go.
There are many ways that the sister of the groom can be involved in the planning of the wedding. The first (and most important) is to let the bride know how excited you are to win her over as her sister and offer to help her with the wedding in any way you can. From there, you will have to take the lead from the bride. If you live in the same city, she might be happy to trust you to help her meet with florists and shop for a wedding dress. On the other hand, in some families, the bride and her mother handle most of the planning themselves, so try not to take it personally if the bride doesn’t accept her offer of help.
One type of help that any bride will gladly accept from the groom’s sister is advice on how to get along with the different members of the family. Joining a new family can feel like moving to a foreign country at times, and any bride would be happy to have a road map from someone who knows the ins and outs. The relationship between a new bride and her mother-in-law can be one of the most difficult to establish, and anything the groom’s sister can do to help get them on the right track would be a very nice gesture.
As the sister of the groom, you will probably be invited to participate in the wedding in some way. The usual roles of the sister of the groom are maid of honor or reader of ceremonies. If you are a bridesmaid, it is essential that you do not get carried away by the typical gossip of the bridesmaids about how ugly the dresses are. This is the kind of thing that the sister of the bride could get away with, but if the bride finds out that her soon-to-be sister-in-law has been criticizing her taste, she will probably be very offended.
If you are asked to be a bridesmaid, make the most of it. If the dress is not to your liking, there are beautiful bridesmaid jewelry sets available to help you style it up. Of course, the bride will often give her attendants bridesmaid jewelry sets as gifts; If you offer to help her buy them, you may be able to guide her to pieces that you really like. Don’t be like my good friend’s sister-in-law; she complained incessantly about dresses, didn’t show up for fittings, didn’t put on her shoes until the last minute, and generally acted as if being at her brother’s wedding was a huge imposition. You can imagine how this made the bride feel about her!
The last thing the groom’s sister should do is plan to toast the wedding. It doesn’t have to be long, just sincere. A few nice words about your happiness for your brother finding such a perfect woman and your joy at having a new sister would be ideal. You will be known as a very funny sister of the groom, and you will contribute to the happiness of the newlyweds on their special day.